Title: Master or Victim
“Everything happens for a reason.” You either believe this statement or not. If you do, then you will be the Master of your own destiny and if you do not, then you will be the Victim. Which one would you rather be?
In June 2007 three (3) huge things happened to me at the same time.
First, my income was cut-off without any prior notice.
Second, my relationship ended which led me to have no roof over my head because I couldn’t pay the rent without an income.
I was a hair away from sleeping in my car and begging on the streets of Victoria City.
None of the three circumstances were planned, I had no control over them and I could not have prevented any of them from happening.
When the dust begun to settle, I started to think about how to piece my life back together. Instead of feeling sorry for myself I started to take action. I started looking at the good things in life, like:
- where I was
- that I was healthy, strong and determined to turn things around
- that I had family living close by
- that I have a passion for art and I have a dream to start my own museum
- that I could spend time on my own thinking about things
I still had a lot to be thankful for, even though my life seemed to be spun out of control.
I felt grounded within myself. My foundation was protected and I felt safe within myself. My core values was still the same and I knew who I was. I knew deep down that I would be able to take the bull by its horns and conquer each of the challenges that came my way. This power came from within me, like a ray of light guiding me to make the right decisions.
To start off with, I stayed put where I was living. I was not going to be put out on the streets. Then I thought of a short-term and long-term plan for my future. Afterwards I applied to jobs that I really “liked” and got interviews with companies.
Now, one and a half months later, I have two companies who are seriously interested in hiring me, I have a short-term and long-term plan for my future and I have lessened the hostile situation with my ex-partner.
These are all examples of how I became Master of my own destiny instead of a Victim.
What I could have done, is curled up in a little ball and cried myself to death – but where would that have gotten me? Nowhere.
The key to mastering your own destiny is to believe in yourself, your dreams, your thoughts, your core values and your own decision-making.
When unexpected situations come your way – don’t try to dodge them by ignoring them – instead stare at them straight in the eye, confront it and deal with it. See it as a learning experience, something that will make you so much wiser in the future. These experiences are enriching because they challenge you to really look at yourself in a way you would never have done if the situation didn’t occur. Thank God for this situation for giving me the strength to turn the whole situation around.
Whatever you do in life, don’t run away from it! Instead embrace life like nothing before.
Like my father told me, “Life is hard but beautiful.”
(Image taken in Saanich Municipality, Greater Victoria Area, Vancouver Island, BC, Canada. Sept 17, 2017)